Blog
Reflections on giftedness, therapy, neurodivergence, meaning, post-religious life, and whatever else catches my attention.
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On Luck, Love, and Healing
Seven years after meeting my husband on Bumble, I’m thinking about how healthy relationships support healing, and how healing can make love more possible.
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How to Care about Everything without Carrying Everything
History, mindfulness, and practical tools for coping with political anxiety, plus ways to act that don't require you to suffer to prove you care.
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When Thinking Is Faster Than Feeling
For some gifted adults, the mind analyzes an experience before the emotion registers. How to tell intellectualization from a fast mind, and what helps.
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Gifted and Highly Sensitive: Exercise the Mind, Rest the Body
For people who are both gifted and highly sensitive, the mind may need meaningful challenge while the nervous system needs quiet, recovery, and room to feel.
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Halfway through a Seven-Month Career Sabbatical
Halfway through a seven-month career sabbatical, I’m reflecting on pressure, margin, creativity, and how I want to design the next phase of my working life.
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Hyper-Independence: The Loneliness of Being the Competent One
Some gifted adults learn to connect through competence and usefulness. But admiration is not the same as being known, and it can become deeply lonely.
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Teaching an Autistic Teen to Drive: Expect It to Take a Year
Learning to drive may take an autistic teen a year or two of short, repeated practice. Starting early creates a wider radius of independence in adulthood.
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What Does Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) Feel Like?
What Accelerated Resolution Therapy actually feels like from the inside: what happens in a session, how it differs from EMDR, and what changes afterward.
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Is It Trauma or Neurodivergence? Why You May Not Need to Know
Trauma and neurodivergence can look remarkably similar. Why therapy can be useful before you know which one explains your experience.
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Gifted Adult Loneliness: Finding Friends Who Understand You
Gifted adults may grow up feeling loved but not fully understood. Why finding friends who share your pace and curiosity can bring unexpected relief.
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Giftedness as Obligation: The Relief of Being Average
Gifted adults may feel pressure to build an extraordinary life. Accepting that we are average in most ways can create room for curiosity and growth.
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Therapy for Gifted Adults: What Gifted-Informed Therapy Offers
Giftedness can shape cognitive pace, emotional processing, relationships, identity, burnout, and therapy fit. Here's what gifted-informed therapy can offer.
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The Serenity Prayer, But Make It a Flow Chart
A therapist explains how focusing on what you can control reduces anxiety, eases depression, and helps you get unstuck.
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When Giftedness Leads to Burnout
Gifted, multipotentialite adults often burn out not because they’re weak, but because they’re too capable. How resilience, misfit, and endurance can hide bur...
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Twenty Years Later: What Cancer Taught Me
A 20-year breast cancer survivor reflects on treatment, motherhood, mortality, medical science, and the emotional truth of survivorship. For anyone navigatin...